Getting married is possibly the most beautiful and important commitment you can make to another human being.
And what better way to celebrate this love than with a wedding ceremony, where your friends and family can share in your joyous occasion.
Now these celebrations don’t always go as planned, like with this father of the bride who stopped the wedding for one incredible reason. And while all seemed to be going as planned at this particular wedding, the wedding photographer had something else in mind entirely.
Thomas Stewart has been photographing weddings for years.
But one thing about modern weddings has always bugged him: the use of cell phones to take pictures.
Finally, this past week, Thomas absolutely had enough. He posted a rant on Facebook about guests using cell phones at weddings, but he never expected his words to go absolutely viral.
His post has been shared all over the internet and on news channels, with the original post receiving nearly 100,000 likes and over 66,000 shares.
Not everyone agrees with what Thomas has to say. What do you think of his take on cell phones at weddings? Let us know in the comments.
Thomas Stewart is an extremely talented photographer living in Australia. Among other things, he is known for his beautiful work capturing weddings on camera.
However, Thomas has had a growing resentment toward wedding guests using technology to photograph weddings on their own. His reasoning, though, might really surprise you.
This is the post that Thomas put on his Facebook wall:
“Right, I’ve had enough. I want to talk to you all about guests using mobile phones/cameras at weddings. I want to plead with you, and I’m going to make this very simple: brides and grooms, please have a completely unplugged wedding ceremony.
Look at this photo. This groom had to lean out past the aisle just to see his bride approaching. Why? Because guests with their phones were in the aisle and in his way.
This sucks. And I’m not blaming these guests in particular; I actually take a large amount of responsibility for this occurring. In the past, I should have been more specific with my clients in explaining to them why guests should be told no photos. Well, from now on, I’m going to make a pretty big deal about it.”
“If you’re planning a wedding, please consider these points:
1. Guests with phones, iPads and cameras get right in your photographer’s way. They have no idea how to stay out of our way. They often ruin many of our shots. They will make our photos worse. You’re paying a photographer quite a bit of money; that means you want great photos. We cannot do our best work with people getting in our way.
2. These same guests will get in YOUR way. You will miss moments of your own wedding day because there’ll be an iPad in the way. You will miss seeing your partner’s face in the aisle.
3. The guests’ photos are usually crap. I’m sorry, but it is true. You can’t take great photos with your camera phone by leaning into the aisle of a dark church to photograph a moving subject. Hell, even lots of professionals have trouble with this.”
“And finally, the most important point:
4. Imagine you’re in the middle of your wedding ceremony. You’re elated. You decide to take a quick glance towards your guests as you’re sure they’re sharing these happy moments with you, possibly even shedding a tear of their own. What do you see? NO FACES AT ALL AS THEY ARE ALL HIDDEN BEHIND PHONES AND CAMERAS! I highly doubt this is the way you want to remember your wedding ceremony.
In your invites, tell everyone you’re having an unplugged ceremony: no technology, please. Write it on a chalkboard, which guests can see as they arrive on the day. Tell your celebrant/minister/priest to tell the guests at the start of the ceremony. HIRE A PLANE TO WRITE IT IN THE SKY!”
“And guests, you’ve been invited to this wedding to share and celebrate the love that two people feel for each other. They didn’t invite you along to take photographs that they probably won’t really look at anyway. They want you there with them in heart and soul, and they want to see your tear-filled eyes as you form part of their wedding ceremony. You are witnesses to their marriage, so for goodness sake, watch them with your eyes and your minds, not your phones.
So guests please, for my sake, and for the sake of the two people getting married, leave your cameras at home and put your phones/iPads away. End rant.”
Since he posted his rant on Facebook, Thomas has received attention from people around the world. Some strongly agree with what he had to say, while others had a much more negative reaction. He has tried to brush off any negativity, and decided to focus on his work instead.
Following all of the international attention, Thomas posted on Facebook:
“Well, after that huge weekend of messages, e-mails, calls, features, shares, blog posts, and way more attention than I expected, I just want to get back to doing what I love.”
What do you think about the use of cell phones at weddings? Let us know below!
Thomas’ opinion has truly sparked a debate over whether wedding guests should use their phones and iPads to take pictures.
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