Stephanie Hollifield adopted her daughter, Haley, two years ago, when Haley was 8 months old. Since then, she’s struggled to figure out how to do Haley’s hair. Stephanie is white, while Haley is black.
Stephanie tried everything — she asked friends and strangers for advice, and she tried every product recommendation she was given. But she was still struggling, which meant Haley was struggling, too.
“We are gentle as can be, but she still requires at least 6 minutes of cuddles after the trauma of her daily hair combing,” Stephanie wrote on Facebook. “I feel like it looks great for about an hour or two and then it is tangly and clumpy again.”
The “clueless” mom of five finally turned to social media for help. To her surprise, a nearby black mom named Monica Hunter offered to come to her house to show her in person how to do Haley’s hair.
“It was important to me to touch Haley’s hair,” Monica explained to Yahoo. “Some hair is really soft, some is really kinky. With some, the coils are loose, with some, they’re tight.”
After one educational styling session, Stephanie learned some new techniques for doing her daughter’s hair. Monica didn’t ask for anything in return — she just wanted to help.
Stephanie was overwhelmed with gratitude, and one day, Haley will be, too.