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Selma Blair Gets Candid About Parenting With A Chronic Illness In Eye-Opening Instagram Post

by Angela Andaloro

Selma Blair has demonstrated a truly impressive amount of strength over the last year. Last fall, Selma revealed that she had been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis.

It took 15 years of suffering for her symptoms to be taken seriously. While it was a scary diagnosis, it was also an answer that provided her direction and a degree of relief. Since opening up about her diagnosis, Selma has been very open about sharing the ups and downs of navigating life with chronic illness. She’s now addressing how her illness has impacted her as a parent.

Selma is mom to 7-year-old son Arthur Saint. She shares custody of her son with ex-partner Jason Bleick.

That means that when she does have Arthur, she’s parenting solo. That produces its own challenges, to begin with. Add MS to the mix and it’s a miracle that Selma gets through the way she does. In a recent Instagram post, she touched on the subject of parenting with a chronic illness.

In October 2018, Selma Blair first took to Instagram to share a story from the set of a new project she was working on for Netflix. She expressed gratitude for everyone who had been patient and helpful as she began navigating life with multiple sclerosis.

While Selma had alluded to some health issues before, it was the first time she spoke on her diagnosis. She wrote:

I am disabled. I fall sometimes. I drop things. My memory is foggy. And my left side is asking for directions from a broken GPS. But we are doing it. And I laugh and I don’t know exactly what I will do precisely but I will do my best.”

Later in the year, Selma began using a cane to get around. While she doesn’t need to use it 100% of the time, it definitely helps her out a lot of the time.

At the Vanity Fair Oscar Party in February, Selma made her first red carpet appearance since announcing her diagnosis. Not only did she look breathtaking, but her cane was incorporated into the look in a both fashionable and functional way.

Prior to the event, she sat down for an interview with Good Morning America‘s Robin Roberts. During the interview, she discussed learning her diagnosis and how it has changed things for her.

One of the more heartbreaking moments was when she was asked about explaining her illness to her son, Arthur. Selma said, “After the MRI, I said, ‘I have something called multiple sclerosis,’ and he almost cried and said, ‘Will it kill you?’”

She then explained to Arthur, “I said, ‘No. I mean, we never know what kills us, Arthur. But this is not the doctor telling me I’m dying,’” It’s an incredibly hard moment to go through for a parent, even under the best of circumstances.

We saw another example of the struggles of parenting with chronic illness when Selma posted about her trip to Disneyland with her son. Photos leaked of Selma in a wheelchair with Arthur on her lap, being pushed by dear friend Sarah Michelle Gellar.

Selma originally posted the photo herself but took it down due to ownership issues. She did reflect on it in a later post, writing:

“This friend, made sure my kid had the best spring break memory with all of us. And so I am grateful to mobility aids to make it possible. And the best friends to push. And to teach a kid, there is a person in the chair.”

Selma shared some more candid details from her journey parenting with MS. In a recent photo, the actress is shown curled up in bed with a stuffed animal.

In the post, she wrote:

Here’s a truth. I feel sick as all hell. I am vomiting and all the things which are not polite to speak of. My son ran away. From me.”

She continued:

The medical treatments take their toll. I am going to get through this. We do. This will pass.”

Then Selma put things into perspective in a powerful way:

And to moms and dads who watch their kids sick on things we want them to take to get better… I hold you. So glad this is me and not my child. I cannot imagine ever feeling ok again. #roughday. But it’s still morning. We get through. #realitycheck”

It’s incredible that through all the pain and difficulty Selma encounters on a day-to-day basis, she can still power through. The fact that she holds those who have it worse in her heart shows that this is a woman and a mother who will not let illness hold her back or define her.