This Scene From ‘Sex And The City’ Was So Vile And Obscene That It Was Never Allowed To Air

by Angela Andaloro

It’s hard to believe it’s been 20 years since we were introduced to Sex and the City. In 1998, the salacious series pushed the boundaries of what viewers expected to see from a show about the single life in New York City.

To celebrate the 20th anniversary of the cult classic, the show’s writers sat down with Vanity Fair to discuss what it was like to work at the HBO show, both at the beginning and at the height of the phenomenon that it spawned.

If you’ve seen any of the series, let alone all of it, you might be hard-pressed to imagine what the writers could reveal that would shock you. After all, the title of the series implies that there’s going to be gratuitous sex and some seriously raunchy dialogue.

The writers did have some little-known facts that they shared that caused our jaws to drop. Get ready to be seriously shocked.

A Quick Primer on All Things "Sex and the City"

A Quick Primer on All Things "Sex and the City"

In case you didn’t have HBO during Sex and the City‘s 94-episode run from 1998 to 2004, allow us to help you play catch-up. The series followed New York sex columnist Carrie Bradshaw as she navigated her way through the New York singles scene in search of love, understanding, and great sex.

Of course, a single girl in New York City is nothing without her friends. Enter Miranda Hobbes, Samantha Jones, and Charlotte York. Each woman represented the persona of a different type of single woman and her struggles.

The Writers Spill the Tea

The Writers Spill the Tea

As Vanity Fair revealed, writers who were in the same kind of emotional space as the characters were sought out to keep the show authentic. So yes, some of the crazy, raunchy moments you saw on the show were based on the real-life dating scene in New York City at the turn of the millennium.

And Now, the Moment HBO Didn't Want You to See...

And Now, the Moment HBO Didn't Want You to See...

The too-shocking-for-TV moment surprisingly centers around Sex and the City‘s resident good girl, Charlotte.

In a season 1 episode called “The Monogamists,” Charlotte finds herself looking for Mr. Right in Michael, a guy who meets most of her marks. There’s just one problem.

Charlotte’s almost-perfect guy (key word: almost) is obsessed with receiving pleasure… downstairs.

Charlotte tries to look past his obsession because he seems so great otherwise, but it continues to really bother her. Did we mention he had a really cute dog?


You’ve got to hand it to her for trying. Demanding sex is not OK, and shoving someone’s head where you want it to be is really not OK.

Ultimately, Charlotte decides this guy is all kinds of wrong for her, but that’s not quite how the original ending was written.


Creator Darren Star dished on the intended ending, which was too much for HBO: “It was really the end of the story line… And he had this golden retriever who was always around. In the final scene, she basically let him have it about being offended by his insistence on just wanting a b*** j**. She accused him of only liking her for that and kind of stormed out. And then she walked back in and saw that his golden retriever was going down on him.”

Um, What?

Um, What?

Now, you might think this was just an idea that was tossed around the writer’s room and shut down by the network before going any further.


Writer Amy B. Harris explains that this scene was actually shot! “We shot him putting peanut butter on his p****, and Charlotte walks back in like, ‘Oh, I’m being unreasonable,’ and then she sees that… I can’t believe we even thought about doing it.”

When you think about everything that’s aired on HBO between now and then, it’s almost surprising that this was where they drew the line.

As it turns out, this was one of two incidents where HBO shot down a Sex and the City plot line. Now we totally get why!

Now if you’ll excuse us, we’re off to erase all knowledge of this from our collective memory. Brain bleach, anyone?