Nicole Kidman Finally Breaks Silence On Her Scientologist Kids With Tom Cruise

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Nicole Kidman opened up about Isabella and Connor Cruise, her two adopted children with Tom Cruise, in a new interview.

The 51-year-old actress’ two older kids are both members of the Church of Scientology, just like their father. Nicole hasn’t appeared publicly with Isabella, 25, or Connor, 23, in years.

People have long speculated that Scientology drove Nicole apart from the rest of the family, but she rarely speaks about it herself. This week, she finally gave an update, addressing the topic in an interview with Australia’s Who magazine.

“They are adults. They are able to make their own decisions,” Nicole said.

“They have made choices to be Scientologists and as a mother, it’s my job to love them.”

Importantly, Nicole isn’t a member of the church herself. One source claims that the church deemed her an SP, or Suppressive Person, thus cutting her off from her family.

Nonetheless, she says she loves all of her children unconditionally. In addition to Isabella and Connor, Nicole has two younger daughters with her husband, Keith Urban.

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It seems like forever ago that Nicole and Tom were an item. The couple got married in 1990.

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They adopted two children together, Isabella, now 25, and Connor, now 23, before splitting in 2001.

Nicole and Tom

Tom is a high-profile member of the Church of Scientology, and Isabella and Connor are reportedly members as well. But Nicole is not.

Tom Cruise and his wife Nicole Kidman

Nicole has always been tight-lipped about the role that Scientology plays in her relationships with her older children and her ex-husband.

But in the November issue of Who magazine, the actress gave a rare statement on the topic.


“They have made choices to be Scientologists and as a mother, it’s my job to love them,” she explained.

“And I am an example of that tolerance and that’s what I believe — that no matter what your child does, the child has love and the child has to know there is available love and I’m open here.”

Nicole told Vogue

Previously, Nicole told Vogue that she had “chosen not to speak publicly abut Scientology,” as per the Daily Mail.

“I have two children who are Scientologists — Connor and Isabella — and I utterly respect their beliefs,” she said.

Keith Urban and Nicole

Back in 2010, Nicole also said that the kids chose to live with Tom instead of her: “I’d love them to live with us, but what can you do?”

By that time, Nicole had started a family with her current husband, Keith Urban. The couple shares two daughters, Sunday, 10, and Faith, 7.

Nicole and Isabella and Connor.

Nicole told Who magazine that she’s “very private” about her relationships with Isabella and Connor.

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“I have to protect all those relationships,” she said. “I know 150 percent that I would give up my life for my children because it’s what my purpose is.”

She went on to explain that, no matter what, she’ll always love them unconditionally.

“I think that’s so important because if that is taken away from a child, to sever that in any child, in any relationship, in any family — I believe it’s wrong,” Nicole said. “So that’s our job as a parent, to always offer unconditional love.”

Nicole and Tom

Rumors have long swirled that Scientology drove a wedge between Nicole and her older children.

Cruise and his adoption son

According to former Scientologist Leah Remini in her book, Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology, and as reported by the Daily Mail, Isabella once called her mother “a f***ing SP.”

An SP is the Scientology term for a Suppressive Person, or someone who doesn’t support the church.

Isabella and Nicole
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Notably, Nicole wasn’t at Isabella’s wedding in 2015, and Nicole hasn’t appeared in a public photograph with either child in years.

Despite this, Connor told Woman’s Day in 2014 that his relationship with his mom is “solid.”

Nicole avoid interview about her child

Last year, Nicole caught flack for failing to mention her older children in an acceptance speech at the Golden Globes, during which she spoke lovingly of her two younger daughters.

Nicole support her kids

Clearly, there’s still a lot to unpack here! Either way, it’s great that Nicole continues to offer all four of her kids unconditional love and support.