Angry Mom Thinks Couple Changed Tables Because Of Her 3 Kids Until She Learns They Lost A Child

by Ann-Sophie Kaemmerle
Native New Yorker, University of Virginia graduate, runner, and sometimes stand-up performer.

When mom of three Ashley Wadleigh took her kids to a Red Robin, she was appalled when the couple sitting close to them immediately switched seats.

The woman even hid her face away from them.

Annoyed, Ashley asked the waiter why they moved. But it’s what the waiter said next that made the mom totally change her tune.

He informed her that the couple had lost a child. As a result, it must have been difficult for them to be around children.

Feeling terribly guilty for having so harshly judged the couple without knowing them, she decided to pay their bill. The mom even posted on social media about the experience and her encounter with the couple, which you can read below.

In it, she wanted to send an important message about being quick to judge people, and how this experience opened her eyes!

Thumbnail Photo: Twitter / BC Labour Market R. 

Ashley Wadleigh and family

Mom Ashley Wadleigh was with her family at a Red Robin when she had an eye-opening experience.

She wrote on Facebook:

I decided to take my kids out to eat at Red Robin before going to our school’s skate night at the ice arena. I specifically asked for a server I used to work with and the greeter sat us at a table that was very close to another.

The woman at the table immediately looked uncomfortable and held her hand over half of her face like she didn’t want to look at us. Her husband got up from the table and whispered something in our server’s ear. 

Ashely Wadleigh and family

He then immediately moved them to another table away from us. Now this wouldn’t be the first time someone moved when they saw 3 kids sit down by them, but I couldn’t help but be angry. 

Like, what do you think my kids are going to do? Throw food? Stab you with a fork? Anyway, I asked my server if they moved because of us and couldn’t help but be annoyed by the whole thing. 

Ashley Wadleigh and kids

He bent down to the table and said “They recently lost a child.” In that moment I felt so ashamed. My heart literally skipped a beat. I felt horrible for her, I felt horrible for judging her. 

Ashley and family

So, I did the only thing I could think: I paid their bill and asked the server not to tell them who it was. Well, they must have figured it out because as we were leaving, she stopped me. 

red robin

Trying so hard to hold back tears she said, “Ma’am, I didn’t want you to think because…” 

I interrupted and since I was about to cry myself I just gave her a hug and she whispered “Thank you.” 

I told them “Have a good night.” I feel awful for their loss, but I’m grateful this encounter happened. It reminded me to never snap judge someone… you never know what others are going through. 

ashley and family

It also reminded me to live every moment with my children… to savor the good and bad… because they are here and they are mine. And also to of course always be kind.

red robin

Ashley’s story is so important — we all judge people without thinking, even when we shouldn’t. This is a great reminder for people everywhere.

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