Sometimes, a little insight into how someone else’s life has unfolded will make you realize the vast possibilities out there. We’re so often fed the narrative of the bitter, ugly divorce. Very rarely are families who handle separation in a positive or healthy manner showcased publicly. It’s unfair when you consider that with the sheer volume of divorce that the last decade has seen, not all of it could’ve been that terrible. One young lady came forward with the story of her divorced parents’ beautiful relationship.
Codie LaChelle McPhate took to Facebook to share a few pictures of her dad mowing her mom’s lawn. It didn’t seem like anything special until she went on to explain that her parents have been divorced for 28 years. She described how she’s watched a peaceful relationship between her parents form after the dissolution of their marriage and how she has been fortunate to benefit from it.
Although he didn’t need to do it, Codie’s dad still mowed his ex-wife’s lawn, simply because she needed help.
Codie LaChelle McPhate shared the story of her parents’ beautiful relationship on Facebook as a cute anecdote, never imagining the attention it would receive.
In her post, Codie explained how she felt she benefited from her parents’ decision to be friends even after they split up 28 years ago.
Codie explained: “My mom has bad knees, and my stepdad works out of town. When my younger siblings questioned, ‘Why is your dad mowing mom’s lawn?’ I told them, ‘Because, she needed help, and he knew she couldn’t get out here to do it, so he did.'”
Even as an adult, she feels she has benefited greatly from their example.
She wrote: “This is co-parenting. This is how lucky I am to have 4 parents who respect each other, and know that at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is showing your children (Even ones that are 32 years old) how to treat people, and how to love your family, no matter how it came together.”
Codie wrote a little more about the situation for Love What Matters. In her post, she pointed out that her father did this task for her mother even though he was visiting Codie on his vacation.
Many applauded Codie’s parents for their dedication to their children over anything else. Many acknowledged how hard this is to do in the face of divorce.
Family and friends weren’t surprised by the show of character from Codie’s dad. It’s the kind of man they all know him to be.
Codie believes it is her parents’ dedication to kindness that makes their bond exemplary.
Codie explained: “My dad said he didn’t do this for the recognition. He said my mom and he decided when they were going through their divorce they would both choose to be adults and treat each other with respect and compassion, because no matter how their marriage ended, they both loved each other very much at one point, and that, that love – counts for something. That if they were going to raise their children to be good, kind people, they needed to be good kind people.”
As the story went viral, some were even trying to get the attention of talk show host Ellen DeGeneres, who regularly highlights Good Samaritans on her show.
As the comments came in, it became obvious just how many people have been affected by divorce and how it has impacted their perceptions of relationships.
There were a surprising number of people who had positive stories about co-parenting with an ex, showing that no matter how difficult, getting there is possible.
Regardless of what sort of family you come from, this commitment to kindness is something we can all stand to see more of in an increasingly critical and negative world.