Katie Holmes Chats About Raising Daughter Suri Pretty Much Solo: ‘We Kind Of Grew Up Together’

by Stephanie Kaloi

In a recent interview, actress Katie Holmes opened up about raising her daughter, Suri, during her 20s.

Katie was 27 when Suri was born, and she told Elle UK that she loved it. “I was happy to become a mum in my twenties,” she said. “It’s been nice that our ages fit … how do I put this? Every age that my child has been and my age at that time has been a good match. We kind of grew up together.”

Katie has been famously shy about sharing many details when it comes to Suri, who turned 13 this year. Even in this interview, details about Suri’s actual life are scarce.

The interviewer describes how she attempted to bring Suri into the conversation twice, but notes, “Then she does something that she does throughout the interview every time I approach anything that swims into the private realm. She sort of tilts her head to one side and screws her mouth up. ‘That’s kind of personal …’ is her standard response.”

“And then the conversation swings direction again. It’s frustrating, because Holmes is actually incredibly likeable. There is genuine warmth when she speaks. It’s just you want to know so much more because, one suspects, there is so much more than what she gives.”

When the topic of Instagram came up in the interview, Katie noted: “I don’t use [Instagram] that much and, if I do, it’s usually just work geared. You can start to look at all these strangers and think you know them and there’s no way that can encapsulate a whole person. You’re just seeing a version of them and you always have to keep that in mind.”

She went to explain: “It’s just a picture. You don’t know them. You don’t know their past.” The statement appeared to be a reference to herself, but it could be a reference to just about anything in the wide world of Instagram moments.

Katie is also still celebrating her recent 40th birthday: “I directed my first film, All We Had, a couple of years ago and I’ve been working to get my second film ready so I’m excited to continue. It’s interesting to be 40, though, because when you’re young, you think, ‘I’m never going to be 40!'”

“And then the day comes,” she continued, “and it’s like, this is OK. I’m still doing everything I’ve always done.”

When the conversation returns to her daughter, Katie is asked if she worries about “bad influences” creeping up now that Suri is moving into adolesence. Katie is basically every mom ever when she answers: “Doesn’t every parent? But, yes, of course I’m worried. There is so much bad news and hate and things that don’t make sense. … The atmosphere around the world is … terrifying.”

Though we don’t often see much of Suri, parenthood has been a constant focus in Katie’s life. In 2017 she told Town & Country magazine, “My child is the most important person to me and her upbringing is paramount to my work right now. It’s very important that I’m present and she has a stable, innocent childhood.”

In 2014, she spoke at length with Elle UK about raising a confident, loved daughter. She said, “[I want her to feel] good about herself. And then what she does and who she is, is special and important and should be celebrated. And my mom always said, ‘No one loves you like your mother.'” Katie’s own mother is a rock in her life, and she often shares photos of the two of them together.

Katie has raised Suri as a single mother since her split from Tom Cruise in August 2012. Two years later, she told People that she hopes she’s doing OK and shared the questions she asks herself all the time. “Am I enough? Am I doing enough? Have I seen her enough?”

Earlier this year, reports flew that Tom Cruise has not seen his daughter in at least six years. Katie has been famously quiet on the topic, and Tom has not been photographed with Suri during that time. Katie has noted that she gets plenty of help from her mom, Suri’s nanny, and “girlfriends of all ages, who have children of all ages. I lean on them.”

Wherever the future is taking her, Katie is thrilled with where she is now. She told Elle UK that “I feel happy with where my career is and I’m excited for the projects that I have coming up to come to fruition,” which sounds like a pretty solid place to be.