Rock Guitarist Sees Man Bothering Girl In Crowd, Then Jumps Off Stage To Defend Her

by Ileana Paules-Bronet
Ileana is a writer on the Original Content team. She lives in Brooklyn, NY.

If you’ve ever been to a concert, you know how the event typically goes: while the band gets ready backstage, some other people will take the stage to open for the main artists. Then, the band will come onstage to a roar of applause, play their set, and leave. Sometimes, they’ll come back for an encore.

What doesn’t usually happen is a member of the band leaving the stage during the middle of a set — even America’s Got Talent judges were surprised when this happened on their show.

If this does occur, there’s usually a pretty obvious reason for it — like to pick out a fan to come on stage, or to crowd-surf.

Recently, the band Circa Survive performed in St. Louis, Missouri. During the middle of the performance, guitarist Brendan Ekstrom walked off stage, leaving his bandmates and everyone in the crowd confused.

Brendan has been a guitarist for over 20 years, and he’s never pulled a stunt like this before — so everyone knew something must really be wrong.

[H/T: Scary Mommy]

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After guitarist Brendan Ekstrom left stage during the middle of a song, his bandmates and the audience were very confused.

The next day, Brendan explained what happened in a series of tweets, and people were more than understanding.

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Brendan wrote:

Quick note to those who were at the show last night. I’ve been doing this for 20 years and I’ve never walked off stage during a song before.

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For almost a whole song I watched a guy stand a row behind a girl flirting and then trying to kiss her.

It was hard to tell what was really happening. At times she seemed ok with his advances but after the second time of watching her push his face and hands away and try to turn back to watch the show I asked the security guard to go check on them.

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He couldn’t see what I was pointing to and it was still happening. I left the stage and walked straight for them, my mind an emotional blur.

Security followed me.

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The man seemed dumbfounded when I showed up, as if nothing was wrong.

I don’t know what happened after. I went back to stage to finish the show. Security took it from there.


I didn’t see them again after that. Maybe they were removed or just moved. 

Maybe they were in a relationship. Maybe they weren’t.

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Regardless what I saw from stage was disturbing to me and completely removed me from the mindset I need to be on stage.

It wasn’t cute. It was alarming. I’m almost forty and flirting doesn’t look like that. Maybe it’s that I have a daughter or that I’m older.

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I really don’t know but it made me furious to watch a girl forcibly remove someone’s hands from her body multiple times.

We’re with Brendan. No matter the circumstances, a woman out enjoying a concert shouldn’t have to interrupt her evening to defend her body and her safety.

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