FAMILY & PARENTING

11-Year-Old Girl Manages To Forgive The Father Who Abandoned Her

by Emerald Pellot
Emerald Pellot graduated summa cum laude from New York University with a degree in Writing & Popular Culture. She worked as Senior Editor of College Candy for 2 years, covering feminism, popular culture, and college life before joining LittleThings in 2015. Based in New York City, Emerald covers a wide range of topics from human interest pieces to celebrity news.

There isn’t anything more heartbreaking for a child than the loss of a parent, especially when that parent makes the choice to remove themselves from a child’s life.

Humans of New York, a popular blog that shares inspiring stories of ordinary people, shared a post about a man’s difficult relationship with his father. The comments boomed with people who could relate to having absent and tough dads.

However, one comment struck a cord with thousands of people. The comment was so powerful that it has circulated the internet for years. A single mother named Jennifer shared the story of her relationship with the father of her daughter.

I love reading these “Facebook stories” from real people. It just reminds me that there is so much goodness in the world. Take, for example, the mother who bought another family’s groceries as a spur of the moment good deed!

The dad never really wanted to be a part of his daughter’s life; he even gave up his parental rights so that he didn’t have to pay child support. Perhaps the most heartbreaking thing he did was devote his time and effort to a second family, while never caring for the one he created. Jennifer always felt betrayed, but she asked her daughter how she felt, and, well, that’s another story.

See her daughter’s reaction below and SHARE if you learned a lot from this little girl!

When Humans of New York shared this photo of a man who had a difficult relationship with his father, one comment from a single mother about forgiveness instantly inspired thousands.

 

“My daughter has not seen her biological dad since she was 4. She’s 11 now. When she was 2 he contacted me and asked if I would allow him to terminate his parental rights so he could stop paying child support and I agreed.”

 

“I wanted to spare her the heartache of a revolving door father and the sacrifice of the financial support was well worth him never being able to disappoint her again.

I never lied to her about where he went or who her dad was. I have always answered her questions in the most age appropriate way possible.”

 

When she was four he contacted me and told me he has been diagnosed with cancer and would like to see her. I set aside a day and we met in the park. He had asked for two hours. He stayed 20 minutes and we never heard from him again.”

 

“Over the summer we ran into somebody that knows him and they commented on how she looks like his other children. They elaborated that he has settled down and has a family now.

My stomach tied itself in knots thinking of how hurtful that must be to my daughter. I cut the conversation short and we got in the car to leave and that’s when I saw her smiling.”

“She said, ‘Mom, he figured out how to be a dad. That’s such a nice thing. I’m happy for his kids.’

And that’s the day an 11-year-old taught me all I need to know about forgiveness.”

 

Since Jennifer left the comment on Facebook, it has circulated the internet for years because of its important lesson.

SHARE if you think this little girl’s powerful message can teach everyone something about forgiveness!