Husband Shares Candid Post On Facebook After His Mom Criticizes Wife For Not Cleaning The House

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Clint Edwards is a dad who runs “No Idea What I’m Doing: A Daddy Blog.” He and his wife, Mel, have three children.

Clint’s immensely popular blog and Facebook page chronicle his adventures in daddyhood. Clint explains that he didn’t have a dad in his life when he was a child, so he had no one to turn to for fatherly advice. He’s winging it and sharing tons of humor and wisdom along the way.

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In a heartwarming post shared to his own Facebook page and then picked up by Love What Matters on August 22, 2017, Clint tells the story of a conversation he had with his mom about the state of his and Mel’s home.

Since the time of posting, Clint’s words have been shared over 3,000 times.

Clint writes:

A few weeks ago I was chatting with my mother over the phone when she said, ‘Doesn’t it bother you that Mel won’t keep a cleaner house?’ It was a Saturday. I was working on the dishes. I honestly didn’t know what to say. My mother didn’t say it in an antagonist way or anything. It was more out of curiosity.

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She’d obviously noticed that our home wasn’t all that tidy. Not that it was only Mel’s job to clean it. I see our marriage as a partnership, so cleaning is as much my responsibility as it is hers.

I will admit, though, there is often kid clutter, dishes in the sink, and half finished art projects on the counters. I will also admit, it isn’t as clean as my mother’s home, but that doesn’t bother me. In fact, I don’t really think about that at all. 

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I didn’t really know how to respond to my mother, so I floundered. I never really know what to say in moments like this. But thinking back, I believe my mother’s perception of our house really reflects the era she grew up in. 

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She’s part of the baby boom generation. I didn’t know my father all that well, but I do remember him giving me this advice about picking a wife: ‘Stop by her house unexpected. See how it looks in there. You can tell a lot about a woman by how she keeps her house.’

I think my mother’s concern over a clean house has a lot to do with her trying to meet the expectations of her youth. 

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But the thing is, unlike my father, I didn’t really think about a clean house when I married my wife. I thought about how I liked what she had to say. I thought about how she made me feel.

I thought about how she smiled a lot. I liked that. I thought about how she was sweet and thoughtful, and how she seemed like the kind of mother I’d want for my children. 

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After a few moments of struggling to find the right words, I finally said, ‘I didn’t get into this marriage for a clean house. I got into it because she seemed like someone I could spend my life with.’

Silence.

I put some dishes in the washer. Eventually mom said, ‘Well… that probably is more important than a clean house.’

‘Yeah,’ I said, ‘I think so too.’

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Clint really knows what’s important in a loving, healthy marriage.

Are you as moved as I am by what he has to say about his wife and all of the qualities he loves most about her?

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