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Add Some Romance To Your Relationship With This Adorable Advice From Birds

by Laura Caseley
Laura is a writer, illustrator, and artist living in New York City.

With Valentine’s Day coming up, maybe you’ve been thinking about the state of your relationship — and sometimes, that can feel a little overwhelming.

Do you need to buy expensive gifts? Stage complex surprise parties that involve the coordination of everyone you know? Drop everything for a world tour of exotic, romantic locales?

No. No, you don’t. In relationships — romantic or otherwise — it’s the little everyday gestures that mean the most. And we can see those gestures in the most surprising of places.

Although, maybe we shouldn’t be too surprised that, while we humans are pretending to be the best, all kinds of other animals are living life better than we are. And for some species, that also means forging lifelong relationships.

Obviously, being a human is a very different experience than being anything else, but sometimes, we can still take some lessons from our animal friends.

Today, we’re looking at some relationship advice that isn’t just for the birds — although it is from them! These bird species from all over the world show us simple but profound ways to show you care.

Would you ever take relationship advice from birds? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

1. Prove That Time And Distance Mean Nothing

1. Prove That Time And Distance Mean Nothing
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Being apart from someone you love is the worst — but it’s important to show them that no matter how long and how far you’ve been away from each other, they’ll always be the one for you.

Take a cue from emperor penguins on this. After being separated for months and by miles of tundra, they can still pick out their mate by the sound of their voice.

When they meet again, they bow, then coo and nuzzle one another — which is the perfect way to greet your honey after a long separation!

2. Share Your Food

2. Share Your Food
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Sharing a meal, or even a snack, is a simple but touching way to show a connection with someone.

Of course, we don’t recommend you go as far as the white-fronted parrot does. They “kiss” by opening their beaks and touching tongues. Then, the male vomits into the female’s mouth. 

For humans, splitting a dessert will suffice. 

3. Help Each Other Look Nice

3. Help Each Other Look Nice
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Whether it’s brushing away some stray hairs, straightening a messy tie, or helping to zip up a dress, these little gestures show caring and attachment.

An albatross couple likes to spend time preening one another’s feathers to make sure they each look their absolute best. 

A little grooming can go a long way in showing your partner just how much you care.

4. Publicly Display Your Affection

4. Publicly Display Your Affection
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While private romantic gestures are always appreciated, sometimes your partners wants you to shout your love from the roof tops!

But it doesn’t require a choreographed flashmob or expensive sky writers. Sometimes, just some public silliness or affection will suffice in kindling flames.

Take a cue from the club-winged manakin, who moonwalks up and down branches to impress the ladies. This grand display proves he’s confident and interested!

5. Dance Together

5. Dance Together
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Dancing on your own is fun, but sharing a dance with someone special can bring you closer and give you some great shared memories!

Grebe pairs like to dance together, mimicking one another’s movements, and running across the water in perfect synchronization.

6. Give A Token Of Affection

6. Give A Token Of Affection
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Giving a gift doesn’t have to be a big, expensive show. A little something can actually mean so much more. Just a “Hey! This made me think of you” is a great way to show someone you care.

Crows are known for giving one another gifts of shiny objects, and they’ll even hang onto objects to give to their mates later. And they give gifts to people, too!

7. Make Your Space Appealing

7. Make Your Space Appealing
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Whether it’s a shared space or not, showing you care about your setting speaks volumes about you.

Clean up and decorate, and make a cozy, romantic little space for you and your special someone.

The bower bird is a natural decorator, and creates impressive, meticulously arranged shelters to impress potential mates.

8. Make A Sacrifice

8. Make A Sacrifice
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To really show someone how much they mean, sometimes it means giving up something you like.

Don’t overdo it, but sticking with someone even when you could be doing something else instead shows a lot of character.

Some songbirds have shown that they’d rather stay close to their mates than get a material reward, even forgoing food to stay together.

9. Go On Adventures

9. Go On Adventures
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Nothing livens up a relationship like something new and exciting, and maybe even a little daunting! A new adventure or a new experience makes great memories and shakes things up.

Bald eagles, which mate for life, perform a “cartwheel display,” where they plummet through the air with talons locked, flipping and spinning in the air.

They break apart and regain altitude only moments before hitting the ground.

They’re not huge gestures, but these birds show us that it’s the small, personal things you do that are the real foundation of your relationship, and will prove your love without a doubt.

Who knew birds were so good at relationship advice? 

SHARE these tips with everyone you know to help them make the most out of their relationships and spread the love this Valentine’s Day!