Ordering An ‘Angel Shot’ At The Bar Is A Lifesaving Trick Every Woman Needs To Know

by Rebecca Endicott
Becca is a writer and aspirational dog owner living in NYC.

Every woman who has ever been on the dating scene knows that, while there may be plenty of fish in the sea, there are plenty you’d rather throw back.

Chances are, when you’re actively dating to try to find Mr. Right, you’ll go on plenty of perfectly nice dates with guys who just aren’t quite right.

And, unfortunately, most women will go on one or two horrifyingly memorable dates with guys who are just downright scary — the ones who seem too into you, and just won’t take no for an answer.

It’s only gotten more dangerous since the advent of online dating, but thankfully, folks are now banding together in response to put an end to scary date nights.

We’ve talked before about U.K. bars that encourage women to “Ask for Angela” if their date gives them trouble.

Now, a similar trend is emerging for women who need an out from a bad date — or even help from the police.

All they need to do is order an “angel shot.”

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Recently, signs have started popping up in ladies’ restrooms at bars and restaurants, instructing women to order an “angel shot” if they think they might be in danger.

The posters read:

“Are you on a date that isn’t going well? Is your Tinder or Plenty of Fish date not who they said they were on their profile? Do you feel unsafe, or even just a bit weird?

“We’re here to help. Just go to the bar and order an angel shot.”


The poster continues with a few more specific tidbits; how you order your drink will impact how they handle the situation for you.

Neat: Your bartender will escort you to your vehicle

With Ice: Your bartender will call an Uber of Lyft for you.

With Lime: Your bartender will call the police. “

They add, “We’ll handle things discreetly, and without a lot of fuss (we’ve been there, and we want you to know that you’re in good hands.”

Frankly, we’ve all been there, dealing with a date who got unexpectedly handsy, or seemed to expect something we weren’t interested in giving.

Long before dating apps existed, there were plenty of creepy men at bars, refusing to take “no” for an answer.

The angel shot campaign isn’t the first of its kind.

The idea (and some of the wording) seems to be borrowed from the “Ask for Angela” initiative started in Lincolnshire, U.K.

Here, the idea is to ask for a friend named Angela at the bar, and get a safe escort out.

Still, we like the idea of offering different kinds of “drinks” to help a woman decide how she wants to deal with a situation.

If she wants to keep things really mellow and avoid angering her date, she can just plead an excuse and have the bartender escort her out.

If she believes her date is a danger to herself or anyone else, she can get the police involved.

Of course, as we noted earlier, pushy dates have been around for a far longer time than dating apps — this rule doesn’t have to just apply to women going on bad blind dates.

After all, sometimes a complete stranger grabs you while you’re out with girlfriends, and you may have to deal with that quickly.

And sometimes your bad date is your own boyfriend or husband — intimate partner violence is much more common than assault from a stranger, so any woman in any situation should feel empowered to order an angel shot, and get the heck away from the person endangering her.

Since the concept of the “angel shot” is getting better and better known, we’d even suggest that every bar that implements this policy creates its own “code drink.”

Hang a sign in every stall in the ladies’ room with a key for getting away from a scary date safely, and help countless women!

Women going to a bar alone may also want to try calling ahead to arrange a private signal with the bartender or bouncer.

If you support the angel shot to protect women, be sure to SHARE this idea with every woman you know!