Open up any fashion magazine and you’ll see the same, familiar message: being thin is the key to happiness, being thin is the only way anyone will find you beautiful. One mom, Allison Kimmey, is completely debunking this idea.
Allison was the “ideal size,” about a decade ago. She managed to drop a ton of weight and get down to a size four to six. Everyone noticed. They complimented her, they started to pay attention to her, they started to appreciate her now that she was an “acceptable” weight.
Little did they know that Allison was miserable. She struggled with her self-confidence and self-worth. Flash forward to 2016. Allison has gone up about eight or ten dress sizes and she is the happiest she has ever been. She finally feels free of restriction, of judgment, and the nagging voice in her head telling her she isn’t good enough.
Allison shares her “transformation” photos on her inspirational Instagram. Except her tranformation is a little bit different. Most people show off their weight loss photos, Allison shows off her weight gain — and her gain in confidence.
See how this mama is setting a wonderful example for her little ones below.
“There is so much more to living than the pursuit of shrinking… That’s me on the left, it was 2007, one year before my wedding. I was carrying my story with me everywhere, it was so heavy on me: Shy, introverted fat girl, just trying to make everyone happy and win friends by giving too much of myself and losing too much of myself.”
“I had body dysmorphia. I restricted my eating to under 1000 calories a day. I exercised for no less than 2 hours a day. And it was working. People were noticing me.”
“People applauded my efforts. People complimented my shrinking body. But I didn’t notice me. I still saw the shy, introverted fat girl just trying to win friends. I kept telling the same story so I kept seeing the same person.
And it was never good enough.”
“There was always something more to be done, something less to exist. I was unhappy. I knew I should be thrilled for my life, but I was unfulfilled and I was lost. . . . Fast forward to now. I’ve gained a lot more than size and weight. I’ve gained confidence.”
“I’ve gained body love. I’ve gained fulfillment. I’ve gained acceptance. I’ve gained true friendships that are reciprocal. I’ve gained a trust in myself. I’ve gained a body that can be exactly as she is without constant justification or manipulation. I’ve gained a sense of self.”
“My story no longer defined me, it is rewritten: Now I am a radiant, confident woman that commands a room and shares her gifts purposefully. . . If you’re struggling right now. Disappointed in yourself for being fat, unsuccessful, irresponsible, lost, not enough, whatever it is.
Stop telling yourself that story. And write a new one. You owe it to yourself.”
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